Inspiration, Kenya, life April 19, 2017

Happy Birthday to my Best Friend

by Dr Nick

 

I married my best friend and today is her birthday. This post: If You Want To Be Successful, Marry Your Best Friend detailed exactly why.

In this world of individualized culture that focuses on independence and self-reliance I am happy to say I am not. We are one and success and failure is our success and failure. We are programmed to have relationships and to belong — for those of you skeptical or feeling like you need independence you might just be suffering from the “dependency paradox”. I give up nothing and gain everything.

people who are more dependent on their partners for support actually experience more independence and autonomy, not less

This is what I would term “Healthy Dependency” and something that contrary to some viewpoints that see this as a negative quality in a relationship it is not but rather makes me a better person, stronger and more independent, successful and happier. I depend on her — we share the ups and downs of life and travel this journey called life together

Happiness is an experience best shared and I am lucky to be sharing this with my best friend and wife

Palazzo Vecchio with Uffizi in the Background

“The need for someone to share our lives with is part of our genetic makeup and has nothing to do with how much we love ourselves or how fulfilled we feel on our own. Once we choose someone special, powerful and often uncontrollable forces come into play. New patterns of behavior kick in regardless of how independent we are and despite our conscious wills.”

I love traveling this road with you and wish you a very Happy Birthday — We are One

https://youtu.be/5iIwuooqfuk

Or the African version from this African boy